Mia Tomikawa talks to Alexander “The Engineer” Lim, host of AuthorStory by alvinwriter.com about Master Ryuho Okawa’s book, The Unhappiness Syndrome: 28 Habits of Unhappy People (and How to Change Them).
“Your words often reflect your thoughts.” ~Mia Tomikawa
according to Mia, is based on being unhappy with oneself and with
everyone and everything in the world. She notes that attempting to to
become happy by seeking this from other people or the environment does
not make one truly happy, as one is not happy in the first place, and
one of the major signs that indicate how unhappy someone is, is when he
or she constantly blames others or the environment for the bad things
that happen to them. Mia notes that unhappiness can be invited into
one’s life, and that one who invites it can spread unhappiness to
others. Events that can cause suffering does not necessarily cause
unhappiness but can enable one to progress to enlightenment in the way
that one handles that event.
Mia notes that the term
“syndrome” refers more to one’s mental attitude and spiritual state,
than referring to any disease itself. One method Mia recommends for
changing one’s attitude is to see and assess oneself objectively, to
become aware of the patterns of unhappiness, and gives a guideline for
reviewing and writing down one’s thoughts and actions throughout the
day, which would enable one to see the negative thoughts and actions
throughout the day. Once these are recognized, one must then practice to
replace these with more positive thoughts and actions, and Mia admits
that this takes time, as doing so takes practice.
notes that unhappy thoughts come from the desire to protect oneself
from any hurtful events that have happened in one’s life and also notes
that such unhappy thoughts actually wind up repeating the same pattern
of hurt throughout one’s life. She notes that the first step in getting
out of the rut is to spend less time immersed in negative thoughts, and
the second step is to fill one’s mind with positive thoughts and be
thankful for all the good that happens to oneself. She also recommends
sitting and waiting for the bad times to pass and flow, to help oneself
let go of any unhappiness - something which also takes practice.
notes that The Unhappiness Syndrome, like other books of Ryuho Okawa,
talks about spirituality rather than just deals with self-improvement,
and this is what makes the book different from other self-help books.
She also recommends that people rediscover their purpose in their life,
the one they set for themselves before they were born, she says, to help
guide them in achieving happiness.
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